How I See My Role ...

It seems that a fair number of my readers are at, or are rapidly approaching, retirement age.  As I often paint a pastoral and somewhat idyllic picture of my life here in the Rai, on occasion I am asked for advice on how to make the move to Thailand.  Questions vary from quite general in nature to sometimes piercingly personal.  Don’t get me wrong, I thoroughly enjoy correspondence related to my blog.  My quandary arises from the notion that I would be the person to ask about such things.

My words are expressly designed to be vague, with regard to detail.  I strive to paint a picture with words or encourage others to be courageous and forge ahead down an unknown path, toward an unknown end.  Self-belief, a spirit of adventure and the desire to engage in a life of self-discovery are what I would wish for others.  I am not a fan of self-help books or guides.  Forge your own path, I say.

By relating my own story, I am in no way attempting a ‘how to’ account but rather a ‘can do’ motivation to counter all the naysayers who say it can’t be done.  I would not be so bold, however, as to tell you how to do it.  Besides, my time of transition to a life in Thailand is buried so far in my past, my recollections are no longer clear and my personal experiences are no longer relevant or current.

No doubt you have noticed, a majority of Thailand Bloggers are relative newcomers, still deeply emersed in the transitional phase of adjusting to a new and different culture.  For them everything is strange, exotic and different from what they encountered previously.  Village Farang is someone you are more apt to meet with at the far end of that long tunnel.  Emerging into the light at the other end, there is no longer a clearly delineated line between past and present, no point of origin to be recalled.

All my revelations are backwards.  Life here is my norm and things seem odd or different when we visit my country of origin.  Even my transition from living in Bangkok for thirty years to living in Chiang Rai for the last three, is a Thailand to Thailand, urban to rural transition, quite different from moving to a foreign country.

So, as much as I might like to easy your burden and smooth your transition, I clearly don’t feel qualified to be that kind of mentor.  My message is merely that things will most likely workout for the best.  You will enjoy the good stuff and learn from the bad.  The challenges will make you stronger and reveal the stuff of which you are made.  Don’t over think things in an effort to make no mistakes.  Mistakes are how we learn.